When you look at your calendar what do you see? Most likely there are appointments that take care of the business of life, and few, if any, appointments scheduled for the business of love. Are the most important people in your life given any of your focused time on a regular basis or are they just “fit in” when you have some free time? It is often the case that we simply co-exist with our family members rather than giving purposeful attention to them.
In my hectic life, I seem to have so much going on with the many demands on my time that I tend to be “reactive” in my schedule. I am often tempted to feel as if I am a victim of my crazy calendar, rather than the director of my time.
If you have had similar feelings, let me remind you of something all of us already know we should do, but put off doing … schedule in the ones you love. A few minutes or a few hours should be marked on your calendar so you make sure it happens.
Schedule on your calendar:
• A time to take your spouse/partner on a date.
• A walk or an outing just to sit on a bench and talk.
• A trip to the park with your child.
• A shopping trip or game of catch or a time to play a board game.
• A phone call to a family member.
• A greeting card or e-mail sent with love.
Even if all you do is plan to get out of the house and take a few minutes with each other, put it on your calendar and schedule the time to do it, or you will fill those time slots with something else!
There are so many ways in which we can use our calendars to ensure that the most important people in our lives get time. As the saying goes, love is spelled T-I-M-E.
After reading this blog, look at your calendar and schedule some time for the business of love.
By Mark Hobbins
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